A flea can jump up 7 inches (18 cm) and sideways 13 inches (33 cm) or about two hundred times the length of their own body! For you that would be about 200 times your height (900 feet)!
If you wanted to train a flea to perform in a flea circus, you find a short drinking glass. Find a bunch of healthy fleas (be creative!), put them in the container and cover the top. Don’t take the cover off for three days. When you do, you’ll see the flea only jumps as tall as the glass was and never again further! (This goes for their next generation of fleas too.)
Application for YOU – Do you have any unsuspected “flea training” in your life that whispers: “You can’t jump that high! Don’t even try!” Your history doesn’t create your future …(sometimes it can help), but sometimes it limits you in ways you’re blind to.
We all have choices in our lives – day to day choices, life choices, choices about our friends (we can’t choose our families – although we can choose how to behave/react with them!), choices about how we show up at work, our attitudes, our thoughts even our beliefs. And the more coaching I do, the more I see how much we limit our choices to staying in the ‘safe’ zone (under that glass!).
Often times we become blind to the myriad of choices that are available to us as well as the range of options before us.
Why is that so?
The key element that defines our choices is our thinking. Our thinking in turn is driven by the “personal” energy we have.
Our personal energy is affected by the sum of all of our life’s experiences. Our learning, beliefs, values, principles, emotional scars, and even our mother’s favourite sayings all aggregate together and help form the filters through which we view and live life.
For example, if your life’s experiences taught you to be overly cautious and fearful, then, when presented with a challenge, you will see that challenge through cautious and fearful eyes, and act accordingly.
Our personal energy is created by the interplay of catabolic and anabolic energy which drives our choices, our ability to change, and our ability to maximise our current strengths.
What do I mean by this?
Catabolic energy = destructive, contracting, resisting energy (cat = down, against)
Anabolic energy = constructive, expanding, fueling energy (ana = building, upward)
Both types of energies are valuable and applicable in certain areas of life. Catabolic energy is necessary for immediate survival needs. If you were attacked by a lion, for instance, you’d want the burst of adrenaline and cortisol (catabolic hormones) to help you run as fast as you could. As a short-term survival/coping mechanism, catabolic energy can work well. Long term it is destructive and unsustainable.
Anabolic energy looks and feels different from catabolic energy. This energy is behind everything from creativity and intuition to compassion and caring. This type of energy fuels your body, your performance, your perceptions and choices, and your interactions.
The more anabolic, powerful energy you have, the more capacity, or potential, you have to achieve whatever it is you wish to do, and also, the more satisfaction you will experience in your life.
So is this the year that you will choose to take steps to create the life you want…and jump way before your height?
If you’re looking for a new direction, or to make those goals that seem so elusive become reality do this quick checklist. Yes, it’s simple, but take your time (reflect on where your thinking and judgments may be coming from) – maybe over your next cup of coffee.
Quick checklist to start the new financial year – list the three key items for each question:
- What am I proud of accomplishing over the past year?
- What didn’t I do that is still outstanding?
- What am I most pleased with?
- What am I most disappointed with? (don’t dwell on this – just note it down, it’s important to face your ‘failures’ and deal with them)
- What would I like truly like to achieve this year in my:
- Work life
- Personal life
- Health and Physical Goals
These aspects of your life are intertwined and will each impact on the other.
- How will I make these become reality and am I ready to do this?
Taking the first step is the hardest but it is your choice whether you take that first step and the next one.
If you identify with the above, then I invite you as a valued reader, to chat to me over a coffee, in person, by phone or Skype and let’s see if you are ready to make your goals become reality THIS YEAR!
Any groundless or unrealistic beliefs will limit your energy and prevent you from achieving your goals – just like the lid on the flea training glass!
Working with a coach may help you leap even higher and in a coaching program, you can:
Consider your goals and aspirations
- Identify old assumptions holding you back
- Isolate and evaluate established, but unfounded and untested beliefs about your ability to achieve these goals
- Search for doubts about your worthiness to reach your goals
- Hunt for fears that may be lingering in your heart
My goal is to work with people for change – one person at a time. What is yours?